When we went to the Packers football game in Green Bay, WI earlier this month, all those who attended the game were given commemorative “crying towels”. That’s what we call them anyway. To sob into when/if your team loses. They’re tiny hand towel sized cloths that fans wave during the game. We had put ours away and didn’t look at them until we got home. Attached to each towel was a coupon for Kohl’s department store. $10 off a $30 purchase. I like Kohl’s well enough, I just don’t go there unless I have coupon of some type. About once or twice a year, they send a $10 coupon in the mail that can be used for any purchase. When I get those, I usually buy a couple 3-packs of pretty socks and use the $10 off and only owe a few bucks (if anything). Kohl’s usually has something on sale when we go (or everything) and I always wonder how they can stay in business with cheaper prices than anywhere else. Since hubby and I both had a $10 coupon, we figured we’d go together on his day off.
On the morning of Thurs. Jan. 16th we went to the Kohl’s in Niles, IL. Hubby had asked me ahead of time what I needed. Well, I need bras, underpants and socks ALWAYS. I decided to focus on bras first. Since that is the most unpleasant thing to shop for. Talking back and forth in the car on the way there, we were trying to figure out when I bought bras last. Could it really be 25 years ago?! I don’t know. That seems hard to believe but if you know me, I’m still wearing clothes that old so it could be…. If it was after we moved here, it would be closer to 18 years ago. I know I haven’t boughten any for sure in over a dozen years. It sounds crazy but not implausible. There are some things I HATE shopping for and one is bras, the other is shoes. In the distant past when bra shopping, my mom always came with me. We always enjoyed shopping together and were the best of friends. About 12 years ago, she lost all interest in shopping, getting anything new and even going to the mall to people watch. As I’ve mentioned before, I don’t like doing things alone. It’s not that I can’t. I’ve driven myself to the mall alone before and walked around. Browsed in stores, etc but I don’t enjoy it. Half the fun comes from pointing things out to the other person. Showing each other what you like and what’s new. I always enjoyed shopping but now I’m more into the estate sale shopping where you never pay anything even close to retail!
My husband is a trooper for being willing to go along with me. He’s the greatest about it that anybody could be. He doesn’t pout and stand to the side making me feel like he’s waiting for me to finish. He actively helps me find my size! He is as interested in finding things for me as I am. Maybe more so! This didn’t come about overnight. We’ve been together almost 29 years. We’re a solidified team now, looking out for the other’s best interests. He is emulating what I’ve done for him for years. When he worked a job that required him to wear a suit every single day, I helped him pick out many suits. I gave input on having them altered, etc. When he needed other work clothes, jeans or anything else, I’ve searched through big & tall sizes. He hates shopping for himself and humors me by trying things on and I run back and get a size larger or smaller as needed. Everyone should have a shopping buddy since salesclerks are in poor supply nowdays.
Back in the day, when you shopped for bras, you could NOT keep the salesclerks out of your business. I really hate to be bothered unless I really need help. I know how to find my size and try things on. I can tell if they fit, etc. Well, in the distant past, the sales clerks would count how many garments you took in with you and then they would stand outside the door and keep trying to come in the fitting room. They’d want to see how it fit. Then they would offer advice which coming from a stranger holds no weight with me. I used to be shy and not want a salesclerk to see me in only a bra. Now I don’t have to worry about it because there are NO salesclerks. Not kidding! That’s how Kohl’s is able to offer such cheap prices. They only hire people to ring up your purchase. No one is available to help you on the sales floor ever. It has been this way the last several times I’ve been there. So if you were alone and needed a bigger size, you’d have to put your clothes back on and schlep over and get another yourself. Unless you have a shopping buddy! :-)
A few years ago when we had gotten a coupon in the mail for Kohl’s, we had tried to find bras for me then. Both hubby and I remember it well because I left without any. There are racks and racks as far as the eye can see of different bra brands, sizes and colors. They are all hanging on hangers. I’ve never worn any of those. I’ve been a Playtex girl since I started wearing them at age 11. My mom has always worn Playtex so I guess that’s how that came about. I’ve always been really happy with them. Heck, they last like 25 years so how can anyone complain?! I’ve only owned white bras with the exception of a black bra which I bought to wear to funerals. Take my word for it, there’s not nearly enough funerals to warrant a bra just for that. Playtex are the only bras I’ve seen that come in a package (they used to be boxes, now they’re clear plastic with paper inserts). There’s a special 2 sided wooden rack with drawers that pull out that house all the Playtex brand bras. All the sizes are mixed up and totally random. You’d think they’d be put in by size but no, every size is jumbled in with all the others. So I would say there are maybe 1,000 bras on both sides of this rack. Hubby and I stood side by side and went through one side of the rack pulling out all the 42Bs. That time we left without any was because we had searched this entire rack and there were NO 42bs! At that time, I remember they didn’t have anything larger than a 40! I remember grumbling how I’m not the only big person so why don’t they make bras for big people. So then I ended up wearing those bras another few years to the point that they were disintegrating on my body. The inner cup lining disappeared from thousands of wearings and washings in hot water. The elastic on my old bras were so worn that it’s like wearing nothing. I didn’t notice until I tried on new ones how bad the old ones fit/felt. They were giving me the support of a string of dental floss and the straps were a perpetual source of aggravation.
Colored bras FTW!
So hubby and I searched through all the sizes and were shocked to find so many 42bs. (I could swear I wore a 42b back 20+ years ago but it could have been a 38b. The tags no longer have printing on them from countless launderings.) I had many to choose from and took one of each style to the fitting room. Hubby stood in the doorway of the fitting room (no one else was around) and I went in and tried them on. Then I would walk out and show him. I went by feel more than looks. The first one I tried on, I loved right away. Then the 2nd one didn’t even come close to hooking. I read the size and knew why. It was a 36b inside of a 42b package. Grrr! There were several styles that I had gotten without looking at them to see if I’d like it. Taking them out of the plastic, I could tell right away they weren’t for me. They had 4 hook and eye closures instead of 3 and were made of that starchy lacey fabric that I don’t like. They were what my mom wears. The kind of support you need if you’re trying to lift a heavy load and don’t have a crane. ;-) One step away from steel reinforced. So I had 1 white one and 3 different colors I liked. I didn’t really know how many I would get ahead of time but planned on getting at least 2 or 3 white ones. So we went back to the other side of the rack and scoured that. I found a few more and tried those. Then I had it narrowed down to 6. At this point, you’re probably marveling that my husband’s a saint! 3 white and 3 colored (beige/tan, blue gray and chocolate brown). Kohl’s had a promotion going on where if you spend $50, you get $10 in “Kohl’s cash” to use in the future. Hubby talked me into all 6 and we rang up separately. The bras were $32 each (which I wouldn’t have paid!) but were on sale (35% off) for $19.99 each. That’s still more than I wanted to pay but having the $10 off helped too. So I got 6 bras for $100 and $20 to spend next weekend on underpants. We were joking on the way home that now I don’t have to shop for bras for another 25 years. I’ll be in my mid-70’s before I have to do this again! Yay. ;-)
Going wild with color!
At least I left feeling good about the experience. There’s nothing I hate more than going out shopping for a specific thing and coming home empty handed. My husband was a champ and when he’s so good to me like that, it validates my feelings of love and contentment in our marriage. When people say that you can’t have your spouse be your best friend, they’re just jealous. I’ve had it and it’s absolutely wonderful! :-)